I can hardly remember back when I was in middle school, but
if I remember correctly, we didn’t have the same pressures as kids do these
days. The advances of society can be part of the blame. We encourage growth in
the world today and with that growth there comes a responsibility for us to
grow and mature with society. Well
middle school students today are forced to meet these advances head on and some
with no direction on which way to go. For some students advancing is not always
just that easy. Some students do not have the tools to keep up with their peers,
whether it is in the academic or social arena, some just fall behind. Most of us parents send our kids to school without
even thinking twice that they may not be at the same academic level of most of
the kids in their classes. We assume you are in sixth grade, so you should know
sixth grade material right? The previous school said they were ready so we
trust in what the professionals tell us.
I had the wonderful opportunity to do my community based
learning at a local middle school. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked
this type of volunteer work, especially because middle school kids, at least
eighth graders, are one step from high school, so having them listen to you
could prove to be difficult. As I receive my first assignment in the volunteer
world, I was met by the science teacher and was told that he needed me to
encourage one of the kids to participate with his group so he can be included
in the group work. From what I was told the student is withdrawn from the rest
of the class and usually just sits there by himself during class and group time.
The teacher had his hands full with the rather large class size of kids as she
was demonstrating how to perform a science project. I sat next to the student,
introduced myself and eventually helped him engage with his group. When I went
back the next week my volunteer time, I was assigned the science class again
and the same student looked eager to see me, and this time he willing went with
his group and participated. Seeing this student go outside his normal comfort
zone was confirmation for me that by giving kids the extra support and showing
them they have hope, they can accomplish anything. I know this was just a small
fraction of help or assistance that some of the students that feel left out
need, but it is a big step forward for one kid that now has the confidence he
needs to be successful. You see this student was probably going to get a bad
grade in the class due to him not participating in group sessions. Now he will be graded accordingly from his
input and knowledge of the class.
I am currently reading a book title “The Hope” by Andrew
Harvey. The book talks about stories ordinary people have had and how they persevered
through having faith and hope. Some of the stories were about giving back to
the community in the capacity of giving someone else hope. In one of the
stories a man’s father is on his last days and leans over to tell his son “All
that will matter when you lie dying, as I am now, is knowing that you gave what
you could to help others and that you are loved, not for what you have and not
even for what you have done, but for what you are” (Harvey). I truly believe in these words as helping
others should be from the kindness of your heart and not in return of anything.
Helping others and giving back to your community is what will allow hope to be
sustainable. I am sharing this book with three of my children so they will
understand and know what a great gift of giving is and to always have faith
because without faith it is hard to have hope.
References:
Harvey, Andrew (2009-08-01). The Hope (p. 48).
Hay House. Kindle Edition.
~Melvin
Smith, March 2014